yes it just happened that I didn't run into a similar situation at work (mostly because I didn't work)
that said personal relationships have the same issue, you feel like something could be done but people resist even considering your inputs.. which gives me the idea that most people want to be heard first rather than have solution brought to them
Have you considered that maybe your understanding of the problem is actually incorrect, since your solution of providing input before hearing someone out is not working?
I'm often guilty of this, but in this case we were all assigned similar tasks so I was quite sure it would fit.
People forcing their way into your problems are very annoying, again I know I do that at times but I've stopped doing that almost entirely and basically try to listen more than I speak.
I guess I’m somewhat confused because there was an earlier claim that one had no idea why anyone would be frustrated, but clearly you seem to have a good idea of why someone would seemingly refuse help.
When I said I was frustrated by people's reaction it wasn't entirely about their reasons but the way they refuse too. It's still an odd sequence to hear someone complain everyday then when you say "hey I have this thing" you get a "nono I dont need that". Still appear absurd.
Again we were all doing the same thing and I just suggested using my shit to go faster. One other idea is that there are a few layers of interactions, people prefer suggestions from those they trust, or those they respect. I didn't have that at the time somehow.
"It's still an odd sequence to hear someone complain everyday then when you say "hey I have this thing" you get a "nono I dont need that". Still appear absurd."
I would suspect it's only absurd because of one's personal lack of understanding of the situation. I can only speculate the full situation, but I can imagine a hypothetical situation where a bunch of accountants joke in camraderie about how much their accounting jobs suck, but when someone actually tries to resolve this, the "fixer" is actually trying to fix a non-problem due to lack of social insight and thus the fixer seems absurd.
